Monday, December 8, 2014

If you want be it

Sometime around January 2014, an Indian Court gave a rather strange judgement. Read about it here.
In this, a Delhi Sessions Court judge ruled that premarital sex is “immoral” and against the “tenets of every religion.” According to his judgement, a woman, who has premarital sexual intercourse on the assurance of marriage, does so “at her own peril” and that “no religion in the world allows premarital sex.” A lot of upholders if the Hindu community nodded their head in utmost pleasure. But perhaps the Hindus of the ancient times may not have agreed with this judgement.

If you have followed Mahabharata closely, you will have heard of the term Gandharva Vivaah. Ancient fathers allowed their daughters to select their grooms and stay with them for a certain period of time before deciding on whether they should bind themselves in holy matrimony. Old Hindu texts are full of instances of the Gandharva Vivaah. Why go back so far?

The Muria Gond tribe of Uttar Pradesh are far more open about this concept. In this tribe, it is customary for the young male and female to spend some time alone with one another before they decide if they want to marry one another. There are plenty of instances one can site, coming in from remote corners of the country, about parents allowing pre-marital relations between a couple before they are given the blessings of the elders.

To have sex or not to, should be a matter of choice, both for the man as well as the woman. Of course, it should be dealt with responsibility because things can go very wrong in situations where the woman gets pregnant and has to deal with the possibility of raising a child single-handedly.

As long as the sex is consensual, safe and thought over, who is to decide whether it should be allowed or not?

NOTE: This post is a part of this contest for Poonam Uppal's latest love story. The book can be found here

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